How to be a good negotiator
Have you ever come across these situations?
- Two chefs argue about whose mise-en-place is whose
- Two barmen disagree about whose job it is to take out the empties
- You resent your employer, who has set you an inflexible work schedule
- You and your partner are at odds over who should do the housework<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /?>
In any business and at home, robust negotiation skills are needed. From discussing terms of an employee's contract to encouraging a family member to take certain action, negotiation skills are essential to keep things running smoothly.
Managers with these skills are more likely to get good results and have staff who understand what's expected of them. Negotiation means developing an ability to resolve disputes and conflicts. It also requires a willingness to work with other people to reach solutions that everyone can live with.
In situations where a whole team is negotiating, each individual should have their own role. Knowing who's doing what and when is fundamental to the overall negotiation process.
Here are 10 steps to becoming a skilled negotiator:
1. Start with the end in mind
Realise what you want the outcome to be and know how far you can and are willing to go.
2. Show respect
Listen and learn about the other person's point of view. Think about whether you can both attain the outcomes you desire and be prepared to meet in the middle.
3. Self-belief
If you believe you can achieve what you want, you are more likely to be successful. Presenting in a relaxed, confident way will help you to reach your goal. Speak clearly and concisely. Avoid appearing desperate, stressed, irritated or angry at all costs.
4. Develop rapport
People like people who are like themselves. Take some time to warm up your negotiating partner and find areas of common ground. Remember your goal is to create and preserve a relationship.
5. Use influencing skills
6. Use sales skills
Ask questions and present the benefits of your argument. Find out whether he agrees and then handle any objections. Remember to think about the benefits for both parties.
7. Be flexible
Explore all possible solutions and outcomes. Be prepared to adapt if it means you both achieve your desired outcomes. Collaboration doesn't mean giving up or giving in.
8. Be focused, firm and determined
Restate your case with confidence.
9. Closing skills
At the end of the meeting, be clear about asking for what you want. Check understanding and agreement and confirm in writing afterwards if appropriate.
10. Do it
If you have agreed to do something, make sure you have a plan for carrying it out and make sure it happens. Being reliable and trustworthy will hopefully make things easier when you next come to negotiate with the person.
Negotiation is most successful when both parties:
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